Keep love alive…
A few days ago, a friend of mine put up a picture on her Watsapp Status that contained a question that literally echoed my hearts cry. The question was:
‘Do you now see the importance of dating next door?’
I laughed my heart out and wished for the millionth time that boo was living next door or just down the street (or we were already married…hehehe).
The COVID-19 pandemic has almost every part of the world on lockdown and you are probably reading this at 10:00 A.M from the comfort of your bedroom with your PJ’s on. Part of the advantages of having to stay at home right? No need for makeup or the usual wahala (trouble) that comes with trying to look good. (I do hope you have taken a bath though😅).
The down side to all of this however is, none of us gets to see Boo or Bae anymore. So unless you are actually dating someone who lives next door or down the street, we are all currently long distancing, which lightly sucks.
Whoever thought that one day staying away from those you love would save their lives? I know I didn’t. Now all of a sudden, being able to spend one on one time together with that special person has taken on a new level of importance and we would give up anything to have that chance again. But who says we cannot create pleasant memories while long distancing?
So, while we weather the storm and pray for the healing of our world, here are two tips to help you scatter the brain of that special person even from a distance especially if the butterflies don’t buzz like they used to anymore and as basic as these steps may seem, you’d be surprised how many people neglect to do them.
1. Remember the former things;
Remember what it was like when you first met, how everything about this person fascinated you? Their eyes had a beautiful hue, their voice was your lullaby, and they were literally your drug. Now their eyes have lost their colour, it’s the same old voice and you’re off the high.
You’ll be glad to know that you’re not alone in this. Most relationships have these moments. The good newshowever, is all that can change. That special person still possesses everything that drew you to them. You just don’t see it anymore.
This little exercise will help tear the proverbial veil over your eyes.
Get a plain sheet of paper and pen.
Think and write down ten things that makes that person unique and special. This list should include but not be limited to their physical features, their personality traits, or something they are good at.
Over the next ten days, pick one point each and send an elaborate message to him/her by 5am.
Imagine waking up to a text message every morning for ten days straight that tells you how amazing you are.
This exercise benefits you and your partner. On the one hand it leaves them feeling on top of the world and on the other, it reminds you how blessed you are to have them in your life.
You could decide to do this exercise for more than ten days if you wish.
2. A poem a day keeps the fire ablaze
Ever read any of Shakespeare’s books or the Songs of Solomon perhaps? Love takes on an intense colour with all those poetic mesmerising words flying around.
Now I know your alarms are probably going off because poems do not come naturally for you. Trust me, everyone has a ‘Shakespearean’ dimension, It only takes a bit of effort. So I challenge you, along with the ten-days challenge write something creative at whatever frequency you choose and send it to that special person. This time though, you’re going to design it using the Canva Application or any other graphics App you are comfortable with.
If you don’t have the Canva App or any other design App you can download it on Google play store or your Apple store, (or any store near you). It doesn’t have to be over the top, but trust me, let it produce an over the top response from your special one. It doesn’t have to be lengthy too.
And just in case you think this is something mushy and won’t have any effect on macho Boo, may I remind you that at their core, men are big babies.
There are so many other special ways to express love to the one you love this season. Write a rap or a song and record it even if your voice sounds like that of a frog. Create a slideshow with pictures of the both of you, do something out of the box. Make a commitment to always add a little extra to their day.
Cheers to coming out of the quarantine period with stronger relationships!