You have probably heard the saying ‘’ do not expect anything from anyone’’ and we have use that quote as a yard stick to measure the size of the heart of the people around us. EXPECTATIONS!
Every relationship has expectations.
Every time you make a proposal or commitment you are creating an expectation.Apostle Joshua Selman
A relationship cannot thrive without clear demands, in other terms without clearly defined expectations. So the saying do not expect anything from anyone is a myth, you expect certain things from the people you are involved with.
At home, your family members expect you to be in your best behavior and take responsibilities as you grow. Frustrations and disappointments are as a result of failed expectations.
At work, your boss expect you to behave yourself in a certain way, present work related subjects in a specific manner and failure to do so can cost you your job.
You are expected to behave in a certain way as a Christian: go to church, study the word, pray and fast and engage in beneficial spiritual activities. Even God expects certain things from us, example FAITH. His word says to have faith, to pray without seizing, to multiply, to replenish and to dominate the earth. This is enough to make my point very clear. We all have expectations!
The reason you are reading this right now is because you have had an expectation that Lima’s blog has met and can do it again.
Five expectations you should go into a relationship with:
- Expect to be loved;
Well, love is not all there is to a relationship. it’s just the starting point, but it is a vital point. I haven’t seen anyone who dived into a relationship except with another motive and not expect love. Everyone desire to be loved in different ways and we enter relationships expecting for this goal to be met and in return we give back love. You also expect the best behavior from the person you commit to, cause with love comes understanding, passion, sacrifice, trust, pleasure, and so on.
2. Expect to be cared for:
I haven’t see a relationship that thrived without care, we all have different love languages and different temperaments and not all things work for everyone, but something we do have in common is peoples skill; everyone wants to be loved, valued and appreciated. For someone whose love language is attention, some hours spent together, listen and talk to them, understand them and you just sit and watch most of the keys fall into place for them. They will feel loved, understood, pleasured and your time is considered as a huge sacrifice.
3. Expect to be honored and appreciated:
A man understands love from the stand point of respect, as much as the woman wants to be loved, a man wants to be respected. We all want our little efforts to be appreciated and rewarded with thank yous, a smile, a hug, and even a kiss.
4. Expect to be valued:
you’ve heard the common saying ‘you never know what you have (value) until you lose it.’ well, its true. Some of us can’t eat what we dish out to people. it doesn’t matter how bad you were treated by your last friend or love-relationship, when you go into another one expect to be valued and also value the people around you. Cause when you say you love people you are actually saying that you value them regardless of their flaws.
5. Expect to be celebrated:
some of us lack the ability to celebrate the people in our lives, and that has to change. when you celebrate people you show them a level of honor, and when you honor people you open up new dimensions for yourself. learn to compliment your girlfriends/boyfriends/husbands/wives it goes a long way, never get tired of doing it. Because we also want it, we crave for an applaud, a sweet smile that echoes well done!
Since we now believe that with commitment comes expectations and failure to meet these expectations results into frustrations. Let’s talk about the category of people who expect the worst from life!
I am sorry that life didn’t go as planned and that’s because God has better plans for you; one day you will laugh over everything you have been through, but you have to start seeing life in a better light.
Some of you haven’t been so lucky with relationships and whenever you’re trying a new one out, you go in with unhealthy expectations; you go in with understandings from the pit of hell and expect to be treated the same way you hate to be treated. You need to set your mind free and trust the Holy Spirit to heal you so that you can start to have better expectations in life and in relationship.
Some of us have lost good people because of our bad decisions and some opportunities and because it is said that opportunity comes but once we don’t expect to meet or come across more opportunities.
Today we pray for healing and deliverance, in Jesus name… amen!
- Expect good things to happen to you.
- Expect people to love you and to value you.
- Expect to marry a good man\ a good woman.
- Expect to be cared for and not to be beaten with words or with palms.
- Expect to be celebrated.
- Expect to meet the right people.
- Expect to be wealthy no matter the circumstances.
- Expect to understand and play your roles in relationships.
- Don’t expect to turn out like your abusive parent or to be irresponsible.
Expectations are hopes and when you can see it, when you believe it and when you pray about it, it will become your reality.
Today, turn your expectations to prayers cause only God can meet them without disappointing you or without frustrating you. We are humans…
And pray to God to help you let go off every expectation barrier or mindset.