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Fintapwa Efford Pagiel
From Adamawa, Nigeria.
Batchama black beauty.
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I am a 300Level student of sociology, the second and last born of my family. I was born on the 19th of October in the 90’s and brought up in Adamawa state.
I love cooking, being handy( decorations), talking with friends, Meditation ( especially planning for what is ahead of me in life), I believe I am called into the family line and the business world.
Growing in the north is really a blessing to me, the northern culture and training is making me the woman I am becoming in so many ways, i have been groomed and brought up in the ways of the Lord since childhood but without having to know that there’s more to Christ in every part of my life and he is interested in having a relationship with me.
Christ influences my lifestyle, especially when it come to my thought and relating with people ( transformation of the mind).
While growing up I suffered from Low self-esteem and negative thoughts towards people .
The journey to becoming perfect in Christ hasn’t been easy, each step from crawling to walking had it own pain.
It took time for me to adjust well and grow because people misunderstand and misinterpret things I do or say but all thanks to Eternity network international (koinonia) and school of ministry (SOM) for total transformation.
My complexion was the major problem I had to face, everyone thought I was too black and I felt very awful about it, I wanted to look lighter, I wanted to please. I wanted to still hang out and have fun with my friends without any worries, let say I wanted to look like them.
I am dark and people actually think that I am ugly and i am not worth being amongst some class of people, you konw that feeling of being left out in everything, never selected for something important or any functions .
It was quite depressing as a growing girl child.
How did I come to feel better about myself?
I Surrounded myself with people that appreciate me, people who know that beauty does not only come from outside but from within.
If you don’t get appreciation from people learn how to appreciate yourself
Never be intimidated by anyone learn to make yourself into the picture you have in your mind.
Now because of my complexion people get attracted to me more, you can’t ignore me in any environment I go, a lot of people love my melanin skin color and others want to be dark like me.
I walk around with my badge of honor and pride. I am black and one day this skin will speak for me.
love is pain, sacrifice, joy, happiness, trust and many more.
My previous and first relationship felt like love but it didn’t work out so people blamed me, accused me and some even said to my face that I needed God to forgive me, why ?
It was quite funny cause I was the one there and not them, I believe that there is more to a love-relationship than saying I love you to each other and that’s it. Not that it was bad but it was leading to nowhere, at a time it was defined then all of sudden it was not like we weren’t even sure of what we were doing.
Anyways all things work together for good.
When you love someone he or she becomes one of your piority, you two set goals, target and work towards achieving them.
Communication, Understanding, sacrifices and passion are the common language you should share. You hang out, you have fun, share similar visions or support each others vision even though they ain’t similar but on the same page.
LOL, I am not married yet but I believe marriage is good and beautiful when you marry the person you love and you’re ordained too.
Personally I believe that marriage has the potential to bring out the best in me especially with a visionary man around me. I don’t want to be known as the woman behind his success but the woman that works side by side with him to be successful.
Actually people have different perspective to it. Some think it only right to get married when one is done with school, service or when one has a job. I respect everyone’s perspective but I think age or achievement shouldn’t be the yard stick to measure when one is prepared to walk the isle and commit to the vows.
When you are ready and have prepared yourself as a wife, mother and a priest, then you are ready to be joined with a man…
You need to be a
2. Mother and
3 priest before you should think of getting married.
This ain’t just titles and position or offices you occupy, this three criteria are your responsibility to your family and the vows you have made before God and man. Prepare and become all of this before you walk the walk!
You see God has blessed me with a very beautiful and amazing family, we are a small family of four, two kids that’s myself and my big brother whom I genuinely love, value and celebrate all the time. You can say that I look up-to him, he is my super brother.
Family is the best gift that you can ever have, blood or not related by blood and I am grateful for the gift of Rhema chapel international churches samaru, zaria and ENI one of the best family I have and I will always have.
I believe that everyone is beautiful and I strongly believe that I am beautiful 😊
Beauty comes from within and outside of everyone and everything, though it can be locked but it is wonderful when it’s shared.
I am BLACK
And the Apple of his eyes. 😍😍😍