The man who never reads lives only once.
_George RR martins.
Matthew 7:7
“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.
Matthew 7:8
For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.
An amazing moment with Mrs Raymond, a beautiful woman, inherited wife, mother to lovely Chayil.
Good morning ma, welcome to Lima’s blog, can we meet you?
Mrs Raymond:
Thank you Lima, Good morning. I am Homtapwa Raymond, I am married and have been blessed with a lovely daughter. I am passionate about seeing young people live out their lives to the fullest and also not making irreversible mistakes…
Amazing ma, Can you tell us your experience as a mother ?
Mrs Raymond :
Motherhood, has been an amazing experience. It has opened my eyes to capacities I never knew I had. It is such a blessing to see another life come through you, It has not been easy though, it’s really been challenging since it’s my first time being a mom couple with the fact I am far from home. There are days and nights I wish I could get some good rest while my baby’s schedule isn’t reading same😁. On days like that, I draw strength from the word of God reminding myself that children are a blessing .
They sure are a blessing 🤭👏🏽.. Mrs Raymond in the initial stages of a relationship things could look very perfect and rosy. But what are the things to look out for to build a lasting and sustainable relationship?
Mrs Raymond:
Indeed, relationships are always rosy in the beginning but need more work to keep being rosy.
First and foremost before going into a relationship, one must ask him or herself if he or she is spiritually, mentally, socially and physically ready.
Then, if they are willing to work on the relationship to make it bloom, Working on a relationship requires commitment, unwavering love, and honesty from both parties.
Furthermore, a lasting and sustainable relationship can never be one sided. The two persons involved have to invest fully in making their relationship work.
Unwavering love,this is an eye opener, thank you ma…
Love or passion, is it alright to go against families to be together?
Mrs Raymond:
Going against family to be together 😁…. The bible says children obey your parents in the Lord for this is right. Going against one’s family simply means being disobedient.
I will advise if one’s family is against his or her relationship and the individual involved is fully convinced about the supposed partner, then he or she needs to prayerfully approach the family, explaining to them why they need to be together. Myself and my husband had same experience, He was given reasons why we shouldn’t be together but he also spelt out his reasons why he felt we needed to be together and the family agreed. We all need parental blessings, hence we shouldn’t make decisions without their approval.
It’s not always this easy, personally I have been injured in this aspect. Especially cultural limitations, most times we just have to walk away or give up the relationship to maintain peace between both families.
Mrs Raymond:
Yes it is not,am sorry about that dear.
In a nutshell we shouldn’t elope, right ma?🤪cause most times we young adult try to fight our way through, about this time 2016 I told myself some big truth,I guess I just finally accepted it was a lie… You know, I used to say “he loves me but wasn’t passionate enough” I feel passion can fight It’s way through any situation and overcome. My favourite quote
love is blind but passion overlooks.
What do you have to say about this quote ma?
Mrs Raymond:
Yes, most times, one has to persevere until you find common ground and if it becomes so necessary to walk away, one will have to and
Yes please 😁 eloping is a no go.
Love is blind but passion overlooks… love is an intense feeling of great affection and passion is strong or barely an uncontrollable emotion. When we say love is blind, we say we won’t see the need to become better while building the relationship because the two parties are blind, hence one will miss the fundamental aspect of growth in the relationship. When we say passion overlooks, we mean because of the uncontrollable feeling, we can’t even think on what is right or wrong. I will say if anyone wants to go far in building a healthy relationship, they shouldn’t live by this saying as beautiful as it may sound.
thank you ma, Do you have a secret for maintaining a healthy marriage?
Mrs Raymond:
The secret of maintaining a healthy marriage is first to know the author of marriage. Marriage is the only institution existing on earth that wasn’t created by man and to know the author isn’t about the head knowledge but the willingness to practice what the author has stated about marriage.
•Husband should love their wives and wives should summit to their husbands.
•Understand that you both are from different backgrounds and so totally different humans, so learn to tolerate and enjoy each other.
•Forgiving and forgetting should be practiced more often like eating and drinking.
•Appreciate each others strength and work on your differences.
•Be each other’s cheerleaders.
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Wisdom, may God continue to bless your home.
Why do ladies keep guys waiting unnecessarily long before saying a yes or no to their proposal. Is it always out of a sincere desire to make the right decision or is it out of a ploy to check to see if someone “more eligible” comes around?
Mrs Raymond:
I don’t know for certain why ladies do that. I think it all depends on individual reasons but I would say, it’s not necessary to keep someone waiting. If you are fully convinced about the person, why waiting long to say yes? After all Eve saw Adam before Adam saw Eve. The only thing was that, Eve waited for Adam to confirm that she was the bone of his bone and the flesh of his flesh😁.
Lack of clarity and the likes of fear comes in I think when one is double minded. If you love someone and truly feel drawn to them, it doesn’t take one ages to know and there is peace and comfortability that also comes with that knowledge. When one begins to feel fear creeping in, then he or she seriously need to look into it again. Perfect love cast out fear, therefore Love and fear can’t cohabit
What is the place of perception of physical beauty in the considerations of a guy when he wants to choose a lady, Is it important or not?
Mrs Raymond:
It is very important that a man goes for what he wants. Especially when he is convinced beyond reasonable doubt. Marriage choices shouldn’t be careless choices since it is a life time affair.
How can I open myself to like people sustainably? I’m not open enough…. My fascination that stirs endearment is too weak…. It’s always feeble and momentary
Mrs Raymond:
I think the first thing here is to go for help. If you feel you need a therapist or Pastor, go get one. There must be a root course for that feeling and it has to be dealt with. You also need to be brutally honest with the therapist or pastor indicating when you noticed that aspect of you and how it all started.
Do not date your friends ex, please does it apply to believers?…i find myself asking question like”what if his the right man for me?”
Mrs Raymond:
😁 since it’s very clear, don’t allow pressure from anyone make you decide to do otherwise.
And finally ma’am any advice to us the young adult on marriage?
Marry when you are ready not when everyone is mounting pressure on you to, or when everyone around you is getting married. Take time to add value to yourself. Don’t wait to be married before you do anything valuable. Use your waiting time in a wise way. Invest in yourself as much as you can, go out there and make the world a better place. Let your spouse meet you already fulfilling purpose.
Yes ma’am, thank you very much for your time. May the good Lord bless and sustain your home. We love you dearly…
i am ordained_ to _bear_fruits…
