If you are reading this post congratulations. You made it to the next phase of your life 2019. Happy new year and I love you more than I did last year…
I spent the first day of January thinking and praying about what to write, finally i decided to talk about sex from biblical standard.
You might not agree or be very comfortable with what you are about to read right now but the fact that you clicked on the link means you want to know about sex. So buckle your belts, adjust your tables and open that heart full of faith and I pray that as you read, the Holy spirit will transform your mind and that you will submit your sexual lives to God.
Father thank you for another beautiful beginning, thank you for crossing us over and we asked that you go before us and with us. That this year we will follow the cloud and not the crowd, bless every heart reading this post and speak to them in Jesus name. Amen!
What is sex?
What ever I am going to say is not aim at judging you, I have been through tough moments and have been a mess too. But, I am here to tell you that there is no mess Jesus can’t fix.
Sex is good, sex is not a sin, it is not bad.
God created sex!
Sex Is God’s idea.
Sex is worship.
Connection on a deeper level between a man and a wife.
Sexual urges are meant to be celebrated and not criticized.
Genesis 1:27-28 (KJV)
27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.
28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.
When God said to Adam and Eve to be fruitful and multiply. He didn’t just mean to cultivate the land, he meant to have offsprings, to bear fruit. The only way to do that is to have Sex, God implanted that sexual urge in you for a good reason.
Sexual desire or sexual urge.
Sexual desire can be aroused through imagination and sexual fantasies, or perceiving an individual whom one finds attractive…
When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone.
14 But each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and entice.
15 Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.
Sexual desire is also created and amplified through sexual tension, which is caused by sexual desire that has yet to be consummated.
If sexual desire is created by God and since sex is not a sin, why can’t we all go and have sex?
1 Corinthians 6:12-13 (KJV)
12 All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any.
13 Meats for the belly, and the belly for meats: but God shall destroy both it and them. Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body.
All things might be good and lawful but do not submit to all things because it is not healthy for you. Do not subject yourselves to your flesh, don’t submit to your sexual urges instead submit your sexual urges to God.
Sex is good but it has a cover, it has a container. _pastor mike Todd
The container of sex is marriage. Sex is sealed and covered for marriage, sex is intimacy, when you are married and having sex you are worshiping.
Sex is a form of worship between a husband and a wife to God.
Only when you have sex does God recognize a marriage, sex is a covenant that involves shading of blood for the first time. We can talk about this Some other time.
y’all be looking at me like a bad girl, better hear me well… Because we won’t change and stop wasting away the gift of God if we don’t talk about it.
Why shouldn’t i have sex before marriage?
- When you have sex with a person you become soul tied to the person. There is always an emotional transfer when you have sex.
Genesis 2:24-25 (KJV)
24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
My emphasis is on verse 24, cleave (join) and (become) they shall be one flesh.
That’s why our parent starts to look alike after a couple of years, they share common trait and behave alike. Because they have become one.
When you have sex outside marriage, you are doing wrong and you do not have Gods blessings in the union you are creating instead, he sees you getting married and there is an emotional and a spiritual transfer. So for every person you’ve had sex with you have been married too.
When you have sex with someone suffering from anger issues you start to have anger issues, if he /she is suffering from low self_esteem you start to feel that way too.
Sex is dangerous outside the container of marriage.
- When you get into sexual relationship with someone they take a piece of you.
It is hard to leave a relationship where you two have been sexually attach/involved.
If you stop given men and women you are nit united with a piece of you through sex, then you will find yourselves. Sometimes we ain’t lost we are lust. Invite God into you relationships.
Sex has been perverted By Satan.
We’ve to try to leave a pure life and avoid temptation.
Gods plan of becoming one is one God, one man, one woman, one marriage, one sex partner.
_pastor Mike Todd
Submit your sexuality to God.
Submit Your thoughts to God.
And what most of us need to submit to God is our sight. (You don’t have to watch everything you see online, don’t feel sorry for having to unfollow someone because of the kind of stuff they put up on their status and page, because of the kind of stuffs that come out of their mouths.)
Only the power of God can help u get the urges down
prayer makes you powerful and connect you to the kingdom of God.
Sexual sin introduce you or give access to other sinful things Into your life. Fear, doubt, lies, insecurities, low self-esteem.
Sex outside marriage condemns you.
John 3:16-17, 19-20 (KJV)
16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
17 For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved.
19 And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil.
20 for every one that doeth evil hateth the light, neither cometh to the light, lest his deeds should be reproved.
Another piece of your destiny will be tied down to someone else,you need to come out of the bondage of sex. Let Jesus break the chains tying you down.
May God order your steps.
You need to break free from sexual sins, what ever you have become a slave to you need to break out.
Masturbation, pornography, whatever way you are sexually involve. you need to break free!
Let worship, obedience and prayer be your weapon.
And if you are asking me how, the answer is throw your heart to God and let your body follow.
You are stronger than you think and you have more wisdom than you think.
How to overcome sexual sin?
1.Study the word of God and meditate on It, study the word of God that deals with sexual sin.
For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are–yet was without sin.
16 Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.
2. Stay focus on your purpose:
Purpose gives you direction.
Surely I was sinful at birth, sinful from the time my mother conceived me
7Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean; wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.- Assurance of cleansing.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness.23gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.
6. let your mind be transformed:
Two types of sin: transgression and iniquity.
Transgressions is when you pass the boundaries created by God, when you cross the lines….
Iniquities: lustful inward heart desires.
The church tells us how to avoid transgression, but how do you avoid the inward evil desires. You can only avoid iniquities by the renewal of your minds.
7. Totals surrender.
Romans 8:1-2 (KJV)
1 There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.
2 For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death.
Break the cycle of sexual sin in your family today…
Deuteronomy 5:9 (KJV) Thou shalt not bow down thyself unto them, nor serve them: for I the LORD thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me.
Break the patterns for the sake of your children, I don’t want mine to have to go through this again.
The devil is never done with you, he leaves you and your husband, to your kids, to their kids and so on.
Deal with it.
If Jesus left the grave behind you can leave sexual sin behind forever.
1 Thessalonians 4:3
It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality;
4that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable,
5not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God;
Rewards for abstaining from sexual sin.
Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.
Church has close, lets go home…
I write to impact something into you, overflow in this world in the name of Jesus.